Thursday 4 February 2010

Quote of the Week - Week 94

This week I have chosen a quote from one of the very popular conversations between Mr Darcy and Elizabeth Bennet. It appears in Pride and Prejudice, chapter 58 (or volume III, chapter 16):


Darcy mentioned his letter. "Did it," said he, "did it soon make you think better of me? Did you, on reading it, give any credit to its contents?"

She explained what its effect on her had been, and how gradually all her former prejudices had been removed.

"I knew," said he, "that what I wrote must give you pain, but it was necessary. I hope you have destroyed the letter. There was one part especially, the opening of it, which I should dread your having the power of reading again. I can remember some expressions which might justly make you hate me."

"The letter shall certainly be burnt, if you believe it essential to the preservation of my regard; but, though we have both reason to think my opinions not entirely unalterable, they are not, I hope, quite so easily changed as that implies."

"When I wrote that letter," replied Darcy, "I believed myself perfectly calm and cool, but I am since convinced that it was written in a dreadful bitterness of spirit."

"The letter, perhaps, began in bitterness, but it did not end so. The adieu is charity itself. But think no more of the letter. The feelings of the person who wrote, and the person who received it, are now so widely different from what they were then, that every unpleasant circumstance attending it ought to be forgotten. You must learn some of my philosophy. Think only of the past as its remembrance gives you pleasure."

"I cannot give you credit for any philosophy of the kind. Your retrospections must be so totally void of reproach, that the contentment arising from them is not of philosophy, but, what is much better, of innocence. But with me, it is not so. Painful recollections will intrude which cannot, which ought not, to be repelled."


Although I have only highlighted quotes from the last two paragraphs, I wanted to display the build up to these lines to give them some context. I feel that the key conversations between Mr Darcy and Lizzy always build in momentum and tension through every word. The lines I have chosen to highlight are probably not the most obvious but the Darcy's initial comment and Lizzy's reaction really interest me. I think that she is really showing her wisdom and blossoming maturity with her analysis of his 'philosophy.'

What are your opinions on this? Out of the context of Mr Darcy and Elizabeth's conversation, do you think that it is generally better to think only of the pleasant past memories OR should an aim be to keep painful memories close in order to refrain from making similar mistakes again and consequently becoming more wise to the world.

I dont know the answer to this question but it does often cross my mind. Is it really worth dwelling on painful memories if the circumstances surrounding it have now changed? Surely that will inevitably bring a person down and make them less likely to be able to build more pleasurable memories. But this may be a very ignorant philosophy as is it wise to only focus on the happy memories without deeming any lessons from the bad experiences in life....?


Pic: Elizabeth and Darcy- Keira Knightley fansite

3 comments:

Icha said...

Rachel dearest, the quotes are great and rhyme with my own inner reflections right now. Let me start with Darcy's.

Darcy mentioned his letter. "Did it," said he, "did it soon make you think better of me? Did you, on reading it, give any credit to its contents?"

Darcy was usually portrayed as a very proud man... but here i can see his vulnerability. He wants to know if Lizzy was okay with the letter (and what it represents) or not. He was unsure of himself. And to me, such vulnerability is beautiful...

Now your Qs:

1. Do you think that it is generally better to think only of the pleasant past memories OR should an aim be to keep painful memories close in order to refrain from making similar mistakes again and consequently becoming more wise to the world.

The first one is preferable, but in any case the painful memories appear, I say, DO NOT reject them. Dive into them. Savour them. Cry and wail with them if you need to. And then let them go.

Is it really worth dwelling on painful memories if the circumstances surrounding it have now changed? Is it wise to only focus on the happy memories without deeming any lessons from the bad experiences in life....?

I wouldn't use the word 'dwell' on painful memories. But see, I have a literal surgery scar on my body, a myomectomy to remove my uterine fibroid. It heals already now, and the scar is barely seen. But it will always be there as a reminder of all the lessons it brought for me. And i love it for that. I see my scar as something beautiful, something a part of me that makes me more beautiful...

No need to dwell in the past consciously. But if the past visits again, know then that there might be (or are) things remain unsolved that you must learn to let go.

Or the past just basically visits to say "Hi, you've done great, girl, and you've moved on. I'm so glad for you..." and then, once you nod to it, it disappears.

I hope I make myself clear...?

Linda Fern said...

Well said, Icha, and perfectly clear!

Yrs aff'ly,
Linda the Librarian

Rachel said...

I think that is the key Icha, perceiving all scars as beautiful.