Sunday, 8 August 2010

Jane Austen Quote of the Week 120

This weekend I choose a famous quote from Marianne Dashwood that echoes what has been happening to my life. Although Marianne was in her reckless age when she uttered it, there is a grain of truth there, and some of them applies to me now. Sense & Sensibility Chapter 12:

It is not time or opportunity that is to determine intimacy it is disposition alone. Seven years would be insufficient to make some people acquainted with each other, and seven days are more than enough for others.

I met someone about two months ago, and we started seeing each two weeks after. We're going steady. Externally, our development may be considered as being too quickly, but I just think that it's the right time. This is where I agree and disagree at the same time with Marianne. Timing is also important, opportunity is also important. We would not have come this far had we not met at the right time, moment, setting, etc. Of course our dispositions, i.e. our characters is also an important factor, but we both agree that had we met six months ago or so, this would not happen. It was not the right time.

But now, it is the right time. We're of the right age and maturity to move on. And I'm very grateful for every moment I spend with him.

May Love, in whatever forms, graces you all.

Pic: Lovely Kate Winslet as Marianne Dashwood


Anne Shirley said...

You're in love, I can see that =)
I agree with Marianne totally! When you love, you love; when you don't love, you just don't. It's not about time, it's just about love.
(how many times did I write "love" xD?)
Love is all that matters in life!
Enjoy it!!!!!! ♥

Linda Fern said...

Dearest Icha, how very true! I can't argue with anything you wrote. I do believe things happen in their own time. Blessings to you both.

Yrs aff'ly,
Linda the Librarian

Icha said...

Thank you dearest Linda.

I admit it was not easy to digest the 'when it's time, it's time' notion... but it was true that when I was the happiest with myself, fully accepting myself for who I am... then another beautiful thing suddenly happened.

Blessings to you too!

Icha said...

Why, Anne, so sorry I missed your comment notification, hence I didn't 'approve' it sooner! But thank you for your happiness for me... and yes...

Love is all that matters in life!

What was that song...'All We Need is Love'? So true.


It's not about time, it's just about love.

I hope it applies to you my dear friend, I do. But with my case... this would not have happened had I not resolved my very deep and old childhood wounds (that got carried away into adulthood). It was a very painful journey to dive down within, I crawled on my hands and knees as the result... But I emerged anew and afresh. So it was a journey worthwhile.

And to emphasise that, this is a quote not from Jane Austen, but from a book I am reading now. It's called "Spiritual Bypassing" by Robert Augustus Masters.

For when our heart breaks, it doesn't shatter; it breaks open, expanding to include more and more.

Rachel said...

"For when our heart breaks, it doesn't shatter; it breaks open, expanding to include more and more."

How wonderful!! That makes me want to reach out and hold everything close. It also reminds me of another, very well known quote:

"Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"

I have not been fortunate/lucky/brave (hard to find the right word) enough to experience this but I believe it to be so true.