Sunrise in north Bali (my own collection) |
It’s my first turn of the year, and I already am late!
Sigh... (being more punctual is undoubtedly in my resolution list for this
year). However, I do find a quote that resonates with some of my New Year
spirits...
From Pride & Prejudice, Volume I Chapter 11, Mr Darcy to
Elizabeth:
“My good opinion once lost is lost forever”
I have been Mr Darcy in the past. I have been Elizabeth too,
in the past. But I realise now that people are either: 1) not as they seem, or
2) indeed capable of growing into better versions of themselves. “People” in
this case includes me, of course.
I once wrote a quote in 2010 how I went into a big fight
with a friend. Since last year, we have amended the friendship, to the point
that he seems not to even remember that big fight. Or at least, he chooses not
to dwell on it. Good on you, my dear friend... I’m sorry that we went into that
fight, but I’m glad that we are over it now.
And just early last year, I also misjudged another person. Turned
out, he is not who I thought him to be. I later explained to him how I had a Lizzy
Bennet moment the moment I met him (he was doing something I thought snobbish,
but really, it wasn’t the case). He laughed and we became good friends. We
still fought and argued a lot last year, involving a big project. Once or twice
I thought of just terminating this new friendship. I’m glad that we persisted
tho. Otherwise we wouldn’t have grown up in this friendship...
So, that’s one of my New Year resolutions. Instead of
jumping into conclusion, I’d like to keep an open mind on anything before
concluding something based on enough facts. Of course, at times we shouldn’t ignore
intuition. But intuition should be balanced with good judgement as well,
methinks.
By the bye, if any of you are still unsure about your New
Year resolutions, fret not. The Chinese New Year of the Horse is coming soon on
31 January, just 11 days away. You can still wish upon a star for a better year
ahead...